I have a yahoo email address, and during this first month of the year I've been presented with alot of news and good ideas on the yahoo news page on how to keep your marriage alive, or how to keep your lover or your sweetheart, how to make romance during the everydays. This has started a chain on thoughts in me. I have been married for almost 29 years, my husband is my best friend, my husband is my lover, I am still in love with my husband. We do have our share of grey everydays when life is busy and marriage becomes a routine, through our 29 years life has not always been a walk on the rainbow, we've had ups and downs, we have ups and downs........yes, thank God, we HAVE UPS AND DOWNS. The downs can be a struggle, but they give a perfect background colours for the brush strokes of UPS.
It is always too easy to take each other for granted. We often do. But how do we avoid the serious traps?
Sharing a piece of cake a cappucino and a caffe latte is often our solution. The piece of cake can be cheese and salted biscuits, the coffee can be a glass of wine for me and some non-alcohol beer for Terje. The sharing is what matters. To sit down together, to see each other. Chatting or silence. A hug. A kiss. Eyes meeting. To know that we walk together. Not always side by side, but always together.
We went to the movies the other night. Before the film we shared cake and coffee. And love.